Today I’m sharing with you a casual Valentines Day outfit and owning my messy life. As per usual, I’m bringing you fashion with a side of serious. This week’s outfit idea is for those who prefer the comfort of their home rather than being out and about. I get you. Sometimes Stefan and I just want to spend the night in. So ladies, this one’s for you!
Owning my Messy Life
The tricky thing with growing up, are the thousands of decisions you have to make. Freedom is perhaps one of the biggest things I hold dear. And yet at times I find it’s this very thing that leads to my downfalls. Have you ever gone into a situation or made a decision knowing with 100% certainty it wouldn’t end well? But you did it anyway, didn’t you? Same. That’s what I do when I have all the freedom in the world. I make decisions I know I shouldn’t because I just want to be free and experience life.
There’s a lot of good that comes from this, no doubt. But on the other end, it can also leave room to make bad decisions. Being an adult is hard because you’re so young and naive still, yet have all this freedom. Freedom you never knew previous to this point in your life. At the same time, you have to make big decisions that can impact your life dramatically. It’s like giving immense power to someone who’s proven to be untrustworthy. It can’t end well.
I say all this not under the heavy notion of believing that I’m incapable of making good decisions, but being wise to my naive ways. I guess I feel a certain level of invincibility all too often. I go into situations thinking everything will pan out okay. I understand the uphill battle I’m getting myself into and yet still believe the results I desire will come out of it. Things just don’t happen that way though.
Miracles do happen, but not all the time. They’re rare, otherwise they wouldn’t be miracles. I still have yet a lot of learning to do when it comes to this. I need to understand that if the stakes are high, it just may not pan out. Rather than living in this fantasy world in which everything goes the way I want. No matter how stacked against me it is or how bad of a decision it may be.
I share this to be authentic about the struggles I enter 2017 with, as I begin to build my career and adult life. I don’t think people are real enough about how much they struggle. Everyone portrays these beautiful unblemished lives on fashion blogs with beautiful houses, clothes and hair. Many people are left feeling down about their own lives, in comparison. Do you know what I have to say to that? Don’t ever let it happen. Every human being is struggling in different ways, almost all the time. Difference is, some people choose to hide it.
I want to be honest though and share just how crazy, confusing and hectic my life is. It’s not together. There’s still a lot left to figure out. A lot more frustrated blog entries. Questions, struggles, lessons learned. I hope to look back on what I’ve written and feel like I accomplished something in my life. To climb over a mountain I may have been dealing with at that time or learn a valuable lesson. And at the same time, inspire others on a more simple level. Whether it be regarding fashion or on a more personal level my life and the human struggle we all wrestle with.
Long story short, if you’re looking for another blog limited to fashion, this isn’t it! I feel nowadays we don’t like to confront uncomfortable feelings. If there’s one thing I’ve learned in my short time on earth, we have to anyway. No matter how far we try to run, our problems will always be there. The best thing you can do is face them dead on and not deny that you have these problems. I hope to do this and I hope you will too. Just know you’ll never be alone with these feelings. I’ll always be there on the other side, typing away on my Macbook. Struggling alongside you and never trying to hide that. I’ll own my messy life till the day I die. No shame.